My fiance Tomas and I have been working from home together for over three years. By now, it works for us so well that I think we’d survive living & working even in the tiniest apartment. I’m not saying I’d love to give it a go tho, haha. There are various ways to keep that spark even when you spend 24 hours a day together and let me share with you what proved to work for us over the years.

Give Each Other Space

Look, it’s ok, you don’t have to check in every 5 minutes if your partner still loves you. You don’t have to work in the same room and you most definitely don’t need to explain yourself to each other when it comes to the work you do.

I started working from the comfort of my own home two years prior Tomas joined me. It wasn’t all fun & games back then. He was excited to share every new opportunity the minute it came in & while I knew I needed my time in silence in order to actually get things done.

Let me be completely honest with you, I would even snap at him for no particular reason every time he’d get close to my office space and it really challenged us as a couple. It wasn’t pretty.

Luckily, we did learn to communicate over time. We understood our differences and came up with the model that works for both parts.

These days, we have set working hours which means that since the moment we wake up and have breakfast we are then off to our separate worlds. Of course, we might end up going for a walk or have lunch together in the middle of the day, but work is work and we allow each other to concentrate on the tasks we need to do without feeling guilty.

I love our little arrangement, this way we can have a long chat at the end of our workday as we generally miss each other throughout the day.

Have Business Meetings

Every once in a while we go out to discuss our work on a nice dinner and chat about all the new projects, plans and development we need to do. We also make sure to set our goals for the quarter or a year.

The thing is, as a couple, your business achievements are closely connected to your life achievements as well. Thus, if you’re currently saving up for a nice holiday or an apartment- you both should be on the same page on how much money you need to earn/save in order to make these dreams come true. Be honest with each other and plan ahead.

Perhaps consider setting up a chalk board in your kitchen and write down all of your goals/deadlines that you set during a meeting to make things a bit easier to manage.

Schedule Date Nights

It might seem like you’re spending all of your time anyways, but you need to schedule proper couples time to keep that spark. Dress up for each other, head over to your favourite restaurant and don’t forget to have that extra glass of wine. Don’t talk about work whatsoever during the date nights and discuss your feelings and personal goals instead.

Treat Yourselves

It’s important to appreciate each other for working hard and especially when you both work from home- you should make sure to allow yourselves to be spontaneous.

Next time you have a huge project you’re both hustling on, agree to go on a last-minute trip the minute your job is complete. Or simply go to see a movie at the cinema and get all the popcorn you want after an exhausting day.

The sky has no limits here and you guys know what would work best for your needs, but make sure to remember how crucial this is to your relationship.

Take Turns In Supporting Each Other

We’ve only discovered this recently, but oh boy it makes all the difference. Basically, most of the time, we equally share all of the tasks around our home. We both love to cook, we both have a very similar approach to cleaning and we both work full-time.

Back in the day, we would go without cooking for days if we had a way too long to-do list or our apartment would turn into a complete mess if we both concentrate on hitting that deadline. However lately, we decided that this way to managing our lives doesn’t really work for us as more than often we would end up arguing on who cleaned the kitchen last…

These days, we take turns in supporting each other. If one of us is set to have a crazy week/day at work, the other would take care of all the home tasks. The next week/day we’d mix things up. Not only this allows us to concentrate on what’s most important at the moment, we can also feel very grateful to have each other this way.

Communicate

This is my #1 tip for everyone. Seriously, we talk a lot. Perhaps even more than anyone ever should, but this way I’m sure we’re on top of each other’s needs. Talk, fight, cuddle, whatever you need to do- just make sure to show your feelings to each other.

We’ve been doing this since the day we’ve met, but during the years I was surprised to understand that so many other couples really have trouble in communicating with each other. Don’t be afraid to open up and be vulnerable, this is really the only way to keep your relationship going even when you see each other at your worst.

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Working with the love of my life towards building our future together is so special and it strengthens our relationship more than anything else. Despite all the difficulties we had to overcome to find what works for us when it comes to working from home, I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Do you and your partner work together from home? What was the biggest challenge you guys had to deal with so far? Let me know in the comments!